Rite of Confucianism

Three years of mourning.

Undyed hemp, no meat, no wine, no music, no marriage, no office — and officials were required to resign and go home for it. Confucius grounds it in the three years a child is carried before it can leave its parents' arms. Asked whether one year would do, he told the disciple to do that if he would be comfortable with it, and remarked afterwards that the man was not humane.

⏱ once — and then for twenty-five months◌ the son, and by extension the household

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What happensCoarse undyed hemp, a hut by the grave in the strict form, no meat, no wine, no music, no marriage, no office — for three years by the traditional count, meaning into the third year

What it needsAn employer or a state willing to release you. Officials were required to resign and go home

What it aims atConfucius grounds the three years in the three years an infant is carried. When a disciple proposed one year instead, he asked whether he would be comfortable, and told him to go ahead if he would

Understanding it — context, not catechism: how this rite is held

The three-year mourning for a parent is the most demanding thing Confucianism asks and it was legally enforced for officials, who were required to resign their posts and return home for the full period, a practice called dingyou. The reckoning is by the traditional inclusive count, so twenty-five or twenty-seven months, and it entails coarse undyed hemp garments, abstention from meat, wine, music, marriage and sexual relations, and in the strictest observance living in a hut beside the grave. Analects 17.21 records the disciple Zai Wo proposing that one year would be sufficient; Confucius asked whether he would feel at ease eating fine rice and wearing brocade after one year, Zai Wo said he would, and Confucius told him to go ahead and do it then — remarking after he left that Zai Wo was not humane, and grounding the three years in the three years an infant spends in its parents' arms. The exchange is preserved in full, argument and all, which is characteristic of the book.

From the sources — the passages this rests on; concise renderings, cited

Only when a child is three years old does it leave its parents' arms. The three years' mourning is observed everywhere under Heaven.
Analects 17.21 (rendered)
Said after the disciple who had proposed one year had left the room.

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