Micchami dukkadam.
On the last day of Paryushana every Jain asks every person they know for forgiveness for any harm done knowingly or unknowingly in the year. The obligation is on the offender to ask, unprompted, and refusing to grant it is itself a fault. Offices, family groups and client lists all get the message.
Kshamavani or Samvatsari Pratikraman falls on the last day of Paryushana and is, in social terms, the most striking practice in Jainism. The formula is micchami dukkadam — may whatever wrong I have done be fruitless, or, more literally, may it be in vain — and the obligation runs the unusual direction: the person who may have caused harm must ask, unprompted, of everyone, without waiting to be told what they did or whether anyone is aggrieved. It is said to family, colleagues, clients, competitors and the estranged, in person, by post, and now overwhelmingly by message; Jain businesses send it to their entire address book. Refusing to grant forgiveness is itself counted as a fault, and the standard verse says that one who has enmity with nobody achieves equanimity. What the practice does structurally is put a hard annual expiry on grievance, whether or not anyone has apologised for anything specific and whether or not anyone has changed. Whether that is a profound mechanism or a way of avoiding particular reckonings is a fair question, and Jains raise it themselves.
I ask pardon of all living creatures. May all of them pardon me. May I have friendship with all beings and enmity with none.
Verse recited at Kshamavani, from the Pratikramana Sutra (rendered)Said on the last day of Paryushana, to everyone, whether or not anything specific is known to have happened.
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