At ease in it.
The junzi is described as composed and unhurried; the small man is perpetually agitated. Confucius said that at seventy he could follow whatever his heart wanted without overstepping the bounds — which is the tradition's whole promise, that constraint practised long enough stops being felt as constraint.
Analects 2.4 gives the autobiographical sequence: at fifteen set on learning, at thirty established, at forty free from doubts, at fifty knowing the mandate of Heaven, at sixty with an ear attuned, and at seventy able to follow what the heart desires without overstepping the bounds. That last stage is the tradition's statement of what the whole apparatus is for. It is not the removal of the norms but the point at which they have been so thoroughly internalised that inclination and obligation no longer come apart, so there is nothing left to resist. The junzi is elsewhere described as tandang tanhang, composed and at ease, in contrast to the small man who is chang qiqi, perpetually fretting — the difference being that the small man is managing appearances he has not internalised. Whether the promise is true is not testable, but it is the specific claim, and it is a more interesting one than either self-denial or spontaneity taken alone.
The same ground, other faiths
claims that share this one's ideasSign in to open the first thread. Everything here is attributed.